Life can be unpredictable. You suddenly find out that you need a root canal or your favourite ice-cream flavoured got discontinued. Perhaps though, the most unpredictable of all things in life (even more so than a dentist visit) is love. So what do you do if you have planned to go traveling away for an extended period of time and then suddenly fall in love right before you are meant to depart? This can be tricky, but just as you unpredictably fell in love, relationships can unpredictably end as well. This is why I always say, “you do you boo.” But if that’s not inspirational enough for you, here are five reasons why you shouldn’t cancel your plane ticket for a relationship.
1. You Will Have Regrets
During University I did a study abroad in Salzburg, Austria. This was the highlight of my university career and my only regret is that I hadn’t done more study abroad semesters. While applying to study abroad I remember trying to convince my friend that she should do a study abroad too. She had never traveled before and I knew that if she did it she would have an amazing experience.
But, with her there was one problem. She had a boyfriend and didn’t want to go four months without him. So I went to Austria to study for some of the best four months of my life. I traveled all around Europe making friends and memories to last me a lifetime.
When I came back and my friend and her boyfriend had broken up. So not only did she miss out on a relationship but also an amazing opportunity.
2. If You Love Something Let It Go
I’m not saying that they should let your relationship go – but they should let you go…traveling that is.
Think about your first heartbreak and how long it took you to fully get over that person – if ever. You may think that going away for months seems like an eternity, but if you really love each other then that feeling won’t fade quickly. So do what you need to do for yourself – go have the adventure of your life – and when you return you will still have the same feelings for each other. In fact, you may even appreciate each other even more. What’s that phrase again? Distance makes the heart grow…
3. Your Partner Should Support You
If that person truly loves you then they will support you and be happy for your adventurous soul. I remember when I told my boyfriend that I was going to move to Europe for four months and the first words out of his mouth were, “that is awesome!”
His support made the fear of moving to another country a lot easier to deal with and gave me more confidence in our relationship. His support meant that he trusted me and truly valued my happiness and ambitions.
Just because your partner isn’t able to go shouldn’t mean that both of you can’t.
4. Your Relationship Will Grow On A Different Level
Your communication with each other will greatly improve since that will really be all that you have. Use this as an opportunity to get to know one another on a deeper level. You can’t hang out with each other, instead you will have to share stories about your experiences. You can’t hold hands or kiss, so you will have to learn to show your love and affection for each other in different ways. Long distance doesn’t have to be seen as void in the relationship, it can be used to make it even stronger than it was before.
5. It’s Your Life
It’s that simple. You are living your life – not anybody elses. Not your boyfriend’s, not your Mom’s, not your dog’s. People are important to you and you should put great value on them but at the end of the day you have to do what is best for you. How do you expect to make anyone else happy if you do not learn how to make yourself happy first?
The fact that you are even reading this article tells me that you probably really do want to get on that plane. The last thing that you want to do is resent anyone from holding you back from doing what makes you happy – and that includes yourself.